So here's the story.
I left class 1 day early to go home for spring break. We had to do it that way because the difference in cost of flights in that and then the next school day were ASTRONOMICAL ('scuse the pun).
We booked the flight about a month in advance. I my teachers know immediately that I would be missing that day, and asked for any assignments that needed to be done. One teacher just had me do some reading, the other had me do some reading and writing to make up for it. I also had all other work done. Both teachers assured me there was nothing else to do.
Imagine my surprise yesterday when I got a grading report from one of my teachers. He'd docked me 20% (TWENTY PERCENT) of my homework grade for missing that day -- because they ended up having an in-class assignment on a whim.
That he didn't tell me about.
I suppose it was my responsibility to follow up after spring break and say, "Did I miss anything last Friday?" But still. He'd assured me previously that there was nothing else I needed to do.
After class, I went up to talk with him, first to see if there was anything I could to do make up for the missed assignment that I didn't know existed. He said no, that it was an in-class assignment and therefore nothing could be done for it.
I reminded him (very politely, really) that I'd checked with him way in advance before the trip -- and reminded him before I left -- that I would be gone, and that he had told me I didn't need to do anything else. He said he hadn't planned on the assignment, but still, there was nothing he could do.
Now, 20% is a fair chunk of homework grade. So much so that it pushed my very worked-for A in the class to a B. I explained (very politely) that I didn't understand why I was being penalized for something I a) didn't know existed and b) couldn't have done anyway -- it wasn't like I was skipping class or not turning in homework. In fact, that was my first absence in the class, and I'd never missed a homework assignment. Ever.
He said since it wasn't an excused absence, he wasn't obligated to do anything. And if he helped me now, he'd have to help out EVERYBODY who hadn't turned in a homework assignment all semester. (UM. I turn in *every* homework assignment. This was an IN-CLASS assignment that I was gone for.)
Basically, we went (very politely) back and forth over this. Auntie Flo, of course, decided to help things along and smash a very large HORMONE EXPRESS TRAIN into me. And I started crying.
No joke, y'all. Not so much tears-streaming-down-the-face crying...more like lips-quivering-PLEASEGODDON'TLETMECRYINFRONTOFHIM crying. I could see then he felt a little bad. He's just a grad student, 3 years older than I am. But still. He refused to budge on the issue. (I will say, though, that he assured me that this wouldn't affect my final grade. Not quite sure what that means.)
Finally, when I felt the full-on sobs coming, I excused myself to go to the bathroom. And I ran there and tried to get ahold of myself (OH, AUNT FLO), which I managed to do after approximately five minutes of standing in front of the mirror and waving my hands frantically at my face.
After that, I shamefacedly went back to the classroom, got my stuff, and left. But this has been bugging me all weekend. So help me, y'all.
1) He says this isn't going to affect my final grade. But I can't see how it's NOT going to, seeing as it's dropped me down a letter grade.
2) Yes, it was an unexcused absence. But everything was squared away prior to my leaving and all other work was in.
3) I CRIED IN FRONT OF HIM.
So: I was pretty pissed off for a bit, there. Y'know, after the whole crying part. After talking to some friends, I think I'll wait to see my final grade, and if necessary I'll appeal it. Problem is, I have no actual proof that this went on. My teacher did acknowledge that I spoke with him prior to the trip to get everything taken care of, though.
But now I'm just feeling rather embarrassed. I mean, I cried. Do I e-mail him? Apologize for getting upset? Blame it on the hormones? (Kidding--I wouldn't do that. I'd say I was overly stressed, or something.) Or should I just drop it? I'm just worried things are going to be supremely awkward come class next week. Or that this whole thing will somehow negatively affect my ultimate grade?
I don't know. Assvice requested, please.